We had to put our hamster (Dora) to sleep on Saturday, she was bleeding and the vet said sometimes they have bacteria in their system and when they get older, they get sick from it. She was bleeding really bad and she could not stand or walk and she lost weight. She was a very good hamster and let our daughter play with her all the time and she never bit. Now my daughter is extremely sad. She has dealt with death before and now she says "how many more family people do I have to loose?!" Our daughter is 5 and we did the whole funeral and burial thing and yes we paid $82.00 to have her put to sleep so she would not suffer. I guess my question is, how can I make this easier for my daughter, she cries whenever she talks about her and I just try to hug her and comfort her but she has had a lot of Loss in the past couple years and is feeling really low. Thanks for the help..
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I know you hurt when you see your daughter so sad. My daughter lost her first gold fish.. we too had the funeral bit.. I think it hurt me to see her so sad that I took her to the pet store just to look we did went every wk end.. till i seen her smile.. the smile turned to laughter and she ended asking for a tiger fish..(toby) not a gold fish because she said no gold fish can replace sneezy. and i got her a t-shirt with a gold fish and i put sneezy's name on it. she's now 22 yrs. and she still talks about her gold fish sneezy and still have the faded t-shirt. I hope this helps I will pray for her.
I'm so sorry. Talk to a school counselor and maybe she coould help. Aso, visit Petsmart. They have guinea pigs there. They live for at least 6 years are are REALLY sweet. They NEVER bite and LOVE kids. They're only about $30. They're SO cute! Good Luck!
That is really hard for a young child. Sounds like your doing everything for her. I'd ask her if she wanted another hamster and pick out another one. That may help.
well i would get another pet. not another hamster. somethin that lives longer like a dog or cat. if u cant get a dog or cat then u should get a chinchilla or guinea pug. chinchillas are very very nice and most of the time live up to 10 years!! i have one and he loves going out of his pen and playing. i put him in the hallway and he really bounces off the walls!! i am having a lot of fun with him and i think anyone else would too!
Crying is a normal healthy part of grief - your daughter is grieving and it will take her time to heal.
Allow your daughter to talk about Dora whenever she needs to, ask her if she'd like to do anything special (like possibly put her picture up on her wall, or one of the Rainbow Bridge sites). Check out your local book store - they often have good books on helping a child with grief - or speak to a counsellor.
Don't rush out and get another pet (of any kind). For a start, it's important that she has time to heal first, and secondly there's no guarantee that a new pet will (for want of a better phrase) meet her expectations so soon after Dora - you'd obviously want your daughter and pet to have a good relationship and it'd be sad for both if that didn't happen. You'll know when it's time to open your house to another furry/feathered etc family member (whether that's a hamster or something else) BTW: It's not true that Guinea Pigs don't bite - we've just had a group handed in that both bite and scratch when handled due to neglect from birth. Good luck to all of you.
Poor thing. I'm so sorry. Have her sit with you and tell you all the things she loved about Dora. What was her favorite thing about Dora and why? Write it on paper and let her keep and read it (with you of course as I assume she can't read yet) as many times as she needs to. Maybe you two could make your own little book about Dora and she could make the drawings or you could insert pictures. She could have her book to remember happier times with Dora. It's so tough when little one's are hurting so much. Take care
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